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Elephants Remember Love will be re-launching in the Fall with new content and regular features!

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Are you ready to lose your virginity?

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(This video is brought to you in collaboration with Rebecca Kelsey Sampson and omghow.com)

Deciding whether or not you are ready to lose your virginity is a big decision. It should be taken with a great deal of care. In this how-to I’ll go into some things you should consider before deciding.

  1. One of the most important questions to ask yourself is – Do you care for this person deeply? Or are you just listening to the way your body feels? Your body can play tricks on you, making you feel like you should do something just because it feels good rather than because you should.
  2. Have you and this person had a mature conversation about sex? Things you need to talk about beforehand include getting protection, whether or not they have done it before, whether they were safe with that person or not, their feelings, your feelings for each other, and more. Have you talked to a trusted adult about birth control options? If you can’t have these conversations, you may not be ready to take on this responsibility.
  3. If something were to happen and you ended up pregnant, would he be willing to help you? Would he be there for you and your baby? If you don’t think he would stay with you then he isn’t the person you should be sharing this with.
  4. What is your gut feeling? Even if you do love someone, you have talked about sex, you have protection, and you think he will stick by you – you may still not feel ready emotionally. Don’t worry. Some people feel ready at a young age and others don’t. This is your body and only you can decide what is right for it.

Let’s talk about sex, baby! If you have any suggestions for how you can tell if you are ready or not for sex, edit this article on omghow or type it in the comments below.

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Summer Mood Music from Spotify

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With Summer comes the whirlwind Summer romances, sunny days, and adventures. Today we have our first Spotify music mood post to work with these Summer feelings.

Wake up with the sunny morning with music from Steve Moakler, Owl City, and Augustana in this Sweet Songs for Sunny Days playlist.

 

When the sun goes down and you need some reflection, try out these tunes in the Songs for Sunset list. The end of the day has a very different mood from the beginning of it!

 

If the sun isn’t quite shinning on you today, don’t cope with your Unrequited Love alone.

 

What song has been speaking to your love of Summer? Are you on Spotify? Link your account below.

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Around the Web: Yoga for Sex, Vintage Date Ideas, and More

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Some interesting topics to look into this week! Yoga for sex? Yes please!

Have you found any helpful links that you think will help other elephants celebrate love? Leave them in the comments!




6 Wedding Traditions and Keepsakes I’m Skipping to Keep Wedding Costs Down

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When I started planning my wedding this January I quickly came to the realization that I’m a very casual bride. So many must-haves for weddings just didn’t seem like a big deal to me, so I’ve decided to share with you the six traditions and keepsakes I’ve decided to skip in my wedding to keep the costs down. These items may not save you thousands of dollars but every little bit helps when you are running a tight ship.

Please tell me in the comments what your skipping in your wedding and/or what you refuse to skip on your special day. I’d love to know what you think!

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1. Engraved or elaborate champagne flutes for the toast.

As cute as the stemless flutes in the above picture are (from Wayfair), I could care less about having a custom flute for my champagne toast. The more unique and quirky ones generally cost under $50 for a pair (the one in the picture is under $30) but the fancier ones with crystals and engraving can cost over $100. Everyone I know that has kept their wedding champagne flutes doesn’t use them. They are generally kept on display in a china cabinet for fear of breaking them. This seems like an easy cost to skip if you are only going to use the flutes a handful of times or just on New Year’s Eve so use whatever flutes your guests are using during the toast.

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2. Menus and wedding programs.

As gorgeous as these shabby chic wedding programs are, I doubt many people kept them after the wedding. I think if I bought programs for my wedding the only ones that wouldn’t end up in the trash would be the one I, my Mom, and my MIL would keep for scrapbooking. People get the gist of it anyway – You have the wedding ceremony, then you have the party. As for leaving a menu at the table – why bother? The guests aren’t going to get a choice in what they eat because the meal is planned in advance so they might as well be surprised when their food gets to the table.

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3. Wedding favors.

This is a controversial choice on my part (many of my relatives were surprised) but I honestly think that wedding favors are unnecessary. If you are already spending anywhere from $50 to upwards of $100 per guest (in my wedding package each additional guest costs $87) then isn’t that already a wonderful gift for your guest? You are paying for them to witness one of the most important days of your life, so I honestly don’t think you should have to buy them a present. I don’t know if that’s a strange thing of me to think but it’s what we are going with.

In leu of party favors we are going to donate about half of what we think we would have spent on favors to the Alzheimer’s Association to honor some of our grandparents, who sadly won’t be able to attend our wedding. I’ll have a sign displayed letting my guests know of our choice.

If you are dead set on having favors though, try some of these DIY versions. I think they look much prettier than some of the cheaper store-bought favors and often cost less. The only bummer is you need a lot of time to make them.

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4. Ceremonial cake cutter.

Apparently many people also save their wedding cake cutter. I’m not quite sure why, to be honest. I can understand saving the flutes more than the cake cutter. The cute picture above is from Effervescent Media Works. 

Side note, I will still be feeding my fiance some cake but we have both agreed not to throw cake in our faces. It’s a cute tradition and I love seeing pictures of brides and grooms covered in cake but after spending probably spending hours getting ready – I’m not going to want cake on my face.

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5. The guest book.

I am never going to look at a book with signatures in it, no matter how pretty the book is. For some reason a lot of people are insisting I have a guest book though. I’m not sure why because those same people admitted that they haven’t looked at theirs since the month of their wedding. I do like some of the alternatives to guest books where the guests write advice and date ideas instead of signatures or the art based guest books like this Disney’s UP inspired finger print guest book and this carved mini stump finger print guest book but I’ll most likely will be still be skipping this keepsake.

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6. The garter.

I honestly don’t like the garter ceremony where the groom tries to find his way under your wedding dress (in front of everyone, after doing a sexy dance) to find the bride’s garter and take it off with his teeth. I’d rather not do that in front of my relatives! My future husband thankfully agrees.

I hope you found this post helpful! More wedding posts to come.

What traditions will you be skipping? What are you doing to keep costs down?

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Happy Donut Day!

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We <3 donuts, don’t you? Happy National Donut Day!

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Top 11 Quotes on Love and Breakups

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Love is a many splendid thing! It can also hurt like hell. Check out this mix below of both happy and painful love quotes.

Each of these quotes is also a clickable tweet. Enjoy!

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao Tzu

Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’ – Erich Fromm

We loved with a love that was more than love. – Edgar Allan Poe

True love stories never have endings. – Richard Bach

I won’t cry for you, my mascara’s too expensive. – Adriana Lima

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. – Marilyn Monroe

The sweetest part of being a couple is sharing your life with someone else. But my life, evidently, had not been good enough to share. – Charlaine Harris

Shoo. Away with you. It’s my fault for expecting the extraordinary from the ordinary. – Donna lynn Hope

You don’t deserve my image in your head. You don’t deserve my memories in your chest. – Coco J. Ginger

A final comfort that is small, but not cold: The heart is the only broken instrument that works. – T. E. Kalem

Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes just be an illusion. – Javan

 

Why 11? I just happen to find 11 that I liked. Add your favorite love quotes in the comments, I would absolutely love to read them.

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How to Meet New People

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When you get into a daily and weekly routine that you are comfortable with, it’s difficult to meet new people. Every once in awhile you need to expand the people you know to be able to invite new friendships, relationships, and work connections into your life. First I’ll share some brainstorming ideas for finding places you can meet people and then I’ll go into some ways you can get talking to the people there.

Start by thinking about activities associated with your school or job. If you are in school, start with school clubs and sports teams you can join. There is also the option of study groups. If you are currently out of school and working full time – inquire about the corporate book club, if they support any charities, if some of your fellow employees have a standing dinner date, etc.

After you’ve looked into both work and school, think about general activities or events you would want to participate in. For example; yoga classes, karate, beach cleanups, 5K races, concerts, the spring carnival, cooking classes, wine and art events, and more.

If money is an issue, there are plenty of things you can do that cost nothing at all. Google “Free events in YOUR CITY”. Where I live I found that there are CPR classes once a week at the library, free yoga in the park every Tuesday/Thursday, free self defense classes the first Saturday of every month, and more. Another free activity, going to the dog park,

Write down when all of these activities meet. After school every Tuesday? The first Saturday every month? Do any of these times fit your schedule? Find out if any of these activities have fees to join as well.

Now that you’ve found places you can meet people, you have to actually talk to them. The easiest way to start is to arrive early to any event or class. While you are waiting for the class or event to start, start talking to the person next to you!

Things you can talk about:

  1. Compliment someones clothing/accessories and ask where they got them from or like to shop.
  2. If the event is book based, ask about their favorite book or author.
  3. If you are at a sporting event talk about the players, how long you have been playing, where you wish you could improve (ask their advice), etc.
  4. If you are starting a yoga class, maybe do a partner stretch like in these pictures.
  5. Obvious but effective topic if all else fails – the weather.

Other things you can talk about:

  • “Can I ask your opinion on something?”
  • “My boyfriend thinks this joke is stupid, what do you think?” *Insert joke*

Another way to meet new people –Go online. The world is so big and thanks to technology you can reach people all over the world. Start replying to people you follow on Twitter, leave comments on how-tos you read on omghow and on blogs like this one, join a Facebook or Google+ group/community based on your interests, the possibilities are endless.

Last but not least, don’t worry. You are making an effort to meet new people just by reading this article! Leave a little bio about yourself in the comments and we can all get talking.

P. S. This article is featured as a how-to on omghow.com. Contribute your points to it!

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How to Write a Love Letter

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Love letters are far too underrated. When someone takes the time to write a love letter, it really shows that they care and love the idea of romance. Let’s make you a romantic today with this love letter how-to.

  1. Find a few pieces of paper and a pen. Do not send a love letter via text, email, or typed and printed on your computer. That is not special enough.
  2. Start thinking about what you want your love letter to say. Use one of your papers to bullet point the most important things you want your letter to portray. It could be a retelling over how you met, your favorite things about this person, a motivational pep talk over something they are scared about, anything.
  3. If you can’t decide exactly what you want to say, you could write a sentence or two and then list a few quotes or poems that remind you of how much you love this person.
  4. Write your first draft. Don’t worry too much about handwriting right now, you are just deciding what order certain thoughts should be.
  5. Some things to consider: Don’t focus only on the physical or only on the emotional. Use a combination of both.
  6. After writing your draft, make sure to give it a once over for grammatical errors and possible things to add or take away.
  7. Start re-writing your love letter. Make sure you do this when you have plenty of time so that you can take it slowly. You want to make sure your hand writing is as pristine as possible.
  8. Preferably, send your letter in the mail (either dropping it in her mailbox or sending it with a stamp). Getting anything in the mail is an occasion now-a-days. Everything is just spam or packages from online shopping.

Have you ever sent a love letter? It’s time for me to get writing!




Elizabeth’s Engagement Surprise

A few weeks ago, Elizabeth of lizlovesmakeup, emailed me to share her love story. Then a few days later, I got another message saying she was engaged! Can you believe that? Her and BLANK’s story is just beginning. Here is what she had to say.


— Elizabeth Kathryn (@lizlovesmakeup) February 10, 2014

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Hi everyone!

My name is Elizabeth, I’m 23 (almost 24) and I have a beauty/lifestyle blog and YouTube channel.

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This February my boyfriend, Grant and I celebrated our sixth anniversary together. We met in high school in 2005. I was a sophomore and he was a senior. We became friends when one of Grant’s friends introduced him to me during band practice. I played Flute and he played Trombone. We also had gym class together, so we were able to talk on occasion. In May of his senior year, he asked to go to prom with him one week before his prom and I declined. My excuse was that I didn’t have enough time to buy a dress, shoes, etc. even though I was just too nervous to say ‘yes’.

After he graduated and started college, we really did start talking again for about a year. He wrote me a letter and his friend delivered it to me during school. Eventually we started casually talking and seeing each other on occasion when he wasn’t in class and I wasn’t working my part-time job at the local fast food joint.

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Then it happened, we started dating my senior year of high school, February 9, 2008. We went to my senior prom together and had the time of our lives! We have celebrated both graduating college together and other life events.

This past weekend, we celebrated our sixth dating anniversary by going to eat at a local restaurant. He was acting very strange all day and I wondered if anything was going to happen at dinner. After we ate our meal, he texted me to check my purse. I looked in my bag; saw nothing out of the ordinary until I saw something inside the small pocket. Inside, was in fact my engagement ring! He asked me to marry him and I said Yes!

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Author: Liz is a beauty blogger and vlogger.